Do You Have ADHD?

"I never let my schooling interfere with my education."

                                               -Mark Twain


Many people are too quick to label a child ADHD, when there could be other things going on instead that are causing problems at school. A few examples:

• The child might have a lousy teacher.
• Eating too many foods that most children should not be eating,  such as sugar.
• Going to bed too late.
• Problems at home.
• Lots of energy that could easily be released by putting the child in a sport or having him do aerobic exercise like running.

I experienced this challenge first hand with my own son. When he was in private school his teachers regularly told me that my son was brilliant. However, when I had to take him out of private school at the age of eight the problems began. His teacher informed me that my son had ADHD. First of all a teacher is not trained nor qualified to diagnose and could get into serious trouble for even insinuating to the parent that a child has ADHD.  I know because I went to school to be a teacher and that was what we were regularly warned about. This teacher is lucky I did not make a big fuss about it. The whole district would have been in trouble. Anyway, just to confirm I spoke to the school psychologist and she gave me a questionaire which was so ridiculous.

According to the list my whole family has ADHD and should have all been put on medication including myself.  Keep in mind that we are all college graduates and three of my siblings even have double degrees in different fields. If any of us would have been put on drugs instead of just being allowed to be who we are we would have ended up in and out of rehab or worse. Good thing the tendency to label kids ADHD was not prominent back when I was in grade school.

The psychologist gave me the creeps because she told me she has been so happy ever since her four- year-old son was put on medication for ADHD. She said he was way too energetic before. I coudn't believe what I was hearing. She preferred to put her child on drugs than to find a way to get him to burn off some energy.

 I did my own research on ADHD and I found out that one of the clues a child might have ADHD is if  he/she can't focus or spend too much time on one thing. That was definitely not my son. Since he was almost two he has been doing puzzles. In fact, his day care teachers would be amazed that at such a young age he was so good at puzzles.  Also, once he learned how to read he'd spend hours on a book and the older he got the bigger the books got. Now he reads four hundred page books. When college graduate family members see the books he reads they say, "It looks complicated". He also builds models. A child that has ADHD would not have been able to do these things. Now he is thirteen, drug free and an honor roll student. I am so grateful that I listened to my intuition and not the so called "expert" advice.

Let me go back just a bit. After doing my research I asked  his teacher if I could observe her class one day to see what my son was doing in class that she kept complaining about. I did not notice anything unusual with my son. But I did notice one kid who was practically running laps around the class while she was up front talking. So he either just had ten shots of expresso or he just might have had ADHD. 

After I was done observing the hyper child, I fell asleep. The teacher was so boring that I couldn't stay awake for thirty minutes.  I felt empathy, not only for my own child, but for all the other children who had to bear this day after day. A teacher like that can cause almost anyone to start having ADHD behavior. My son had several friends in class and I befriended their parents. Every single one complained about the teacher being no good. She was also in the habit of labeling kids with ADHD or other behavioral problems and learning disabilities. When the truth was she was lousy teacher.

Teens: Don't allow someone to label you ADHD without checking out other possibilities why you are having trouble learning.

Parents: Trust your intuition. It has become a trend to give drugs to kids as an easy fix. This is much more harmful than good. If indeed your child does have ADHD there are also many other options to try. The drugs should be used as a last resort.

Who Is an Indigo Teen?

Welcome magnificent Indigo teens!  This blog was orginally for Indigo teens, but I've realized that all children and parents should be included because the articles I will write benefit all children of all ages and applies to every parent.

So who and what is an Indigo teen? They are the massive boom of special children born  into this world in the eighties and beyond to assist in the healing of humanity and/or the planet. These children have special gifts and talents. Some have healing powers. Others have a special connection with the earth or the animals. Many have intuitive abilities. There are some who are very creative or artistic.

If you were born before the eighties you are not disqualified from being an Indigo. Some Indigos were born before to check things out and prepave the way for the large amount of Indigos needed to heal our planet.

The signs that you may be an Indigo child.

• You do not fit in with your peers. You feel like a weirdo or an odd ball. Frankly you do not like some of your peers. You find them selfish, self centered, conceited and some of them are even cruel. You feel that you have nothing in common with them.
• Although you may be brilliant, you have trouble at school. Maybe even labeled ADHD. Our current school system is very outdated and is not even suited for most regular children much less Indigo children. But don't despair. It is believed Einstein was an Indigo and he failed basic math.
• You have special gifts and talents, although at this time you don't see the purpose of them.  Leonardo Da Vinci is believed to have been an Indigo as well. He was very intelligent and not only painted, but had many more talents. One of them is that he liked to invent and study things. Did you know he sketched a helicopter? This was way before the possibility of people being able to fly was ever even considered. His sketches and inventions were way beyond his time. People did not understand the purpose or how incredible it was that he came up with such ideas. I imagine most people considered him a little weird.
• Indigo's often do not fit in with their birth families. Not because they do not love them, but because they feel and think so differently. You might assume you are cursed with bad luck. But when you get older you will find out why you were destined to have the family that you have.
• When you are an Indigo sometimes you have emotional problems. Could be anger, anxiety or deep sadness. This is normal. Unless you are suicidal, you should not be too worried about your emotions being negative. Actually you will find that no emotions are negative and I will teach you how to make your emotions your friends. I will also teach you how to avoid using food, drugs and alcohol to suppress your emotions. For now just know that using external things to suppress you emotions makes things worse. Not only do I speak from personal experience, but also because my father died last year for abusing alcohol, he pretty much destroyed his body. He had much trouble with his emotions and did not know any other way to deal with them.
• You may feel that there is something important or special you were meant for, but you still have no clue what that is. This is actually part of the reason why you experience such emotional turmoil. Don't worry, I will teach how to discover your life path.  Your soul is going to keep reminding you that you were born for a unique purpose in the meantime. 
• You are afraid of your gifts and talents so you hide them or suppress them. No one can force you to use your gifts and talents, just keep in mind that the world is missing out when you don't share your magnificence. You can wait until you get to know more about yourself. But life and your soul will keep pushing you to use what gifts and talents were given to you. You will not be completely happy until you do.
• You see, hear, or feel the angels, archangels, guides and maybe even deceased family or ancestors.  Yes I know this could be frightening, but they are not around you to scare you away. They want to help you with your Life Purpose and Life Path. The archangel to call on when you are afraid is archangel Michael. He will protect you from negative people and negative energies. All you have to do is talk to him with your mind and tell him you are afraid and you to please protect you. Then consider it done. I wish I would have known about archangel Michael when I was a child. I would have slepted a whole lot better at night. Also, speak to God our creator. I have a beautiful relationship with God and I encourage you to start developing one with Him as well.
• You have healing abilities. Could be that you are meant to be someone mainstream like a doctor or a nurse, but there are many other alternative healers which I will write about in later posts.  You may also heal with words such as be a speaker or a writer.  You could even heal using your creativity and talent such as with music or art therapy.

The main thing to remember is that you were born for a very special purpose and don't ever forget it. Things could be hard in this life, just keep in mind that you will receive all the help you need not only from people, but from the spirit world as well.

Finally the time has come when the risk to remain in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. - Anais Nin

Ah, now that's living a life worth putting your mother through labor. - Sarah Ban Breathnach

May you know the love that is within and all around you. May you have let the love be expressed and known to all those who come in contact with you. May you be blessed by The One and may you bless the world with the gift of your self. - Kathy Freston, Quantum Wellness