Children In Our Society

"False love can take more forms than active fantasy or projection. It may simply be expressed as something missing in one's experience. If you have not been shown loving behavior, you will have no positive images to fill the heart. The cruelest impression that can be made on a young child is indifference, and it may be the most common. To ignore a child's need for love conveys to the heart that its need is not essential. Upon growing up such a child will find it very difficult to express love. In place of a warm outflow of feeling, he or she will feel cooler, more moderated emotions that too easily flickers and fails. Indifference has a long legacy." -Deepak Chopra


When a child grows up without love they end up having many difficulties in life. Sometimes parents do not show love because they do not know how. Their own parents did not demonstrate love to them. Or maybe love to them only meant providing food and shelter. But there was no warmth, affection or communication. Others are too busy trying to make ends meet, they do not give their children the attention they need. Many are more concerned with climbing corporate ladders or getting their ego needs met. I know some who are OCD cleaners of their home and neglect their children because of it. I do not write this to blame anybody. We became who we are in large part because of our parents. But they also became who they were in large part because of their parents. And it keeps going back to the beginning of time.

When most us came into this world we were programmed with false beliefs and rules that no longer fit with what humanity has evolved to. This is why there is so much chaos and confusion at this time. People are still trying to hold on to old ways of being when they no longer work. It is the main reason I advise people to ask spirit for help because the old rules and ways of doing things no longer work. If we do not ask spirit for help we'll keep trying anyway until something horrible happens and we are forced to pay attention.

We mainly need to give attention to our children. But not in the way most people think. In our society I have noticed that parents believe that by giving their children everything materialistic that they want, sending them to private school, and enrolling them in all the activities they want to be enrolled in, they are being good parents. Their heart is the in the right place, but in this new age, these things are not vital. What is needed is more love and attention. Time with the children. Kids are amazing, but many were born into families that are not conductive for their little selves to blossom.

Our society has failed and continues to fail children. It is most obvious in our school institutions. In other countries teachers get paid very well. In the United States teachers are paid very low salaries which do not compensate for all of the schooling, credentials, multiple tests, requirements, time volunteering, screening, and stress. Not even close. People in our country do not realize that teachers are watching over their most prized possesions, their children. The talented people who would make wonderful teachers choose different careers because they can not survive on a teacher's salary. Therefore, there tends to be a lack of quality teachers.


I write this article because I feel sadness for how our children are not given the proper tools they need. Not just to survive, but to thrive in the new world that is currently being born. I am not saying all households are unfit or that all teachers are lousy. But it should not be the norm that they are inadequate. Not in this day and age when there are so many techniques to use to be a better parent and teacher.

To those of you who are already concerned about not being a good enough parent and are truly committed to your children by giving them love, attention, and quality time, don't worry. Our kids do not expect nor require perfection. That is a good thing because I am not perfect and so far I have not met anyone else who is either. But we do our best and our true best is good enough for our kids.


"Ironically, it is just these children who grow up to crave love the most, but being insecure, feeling the need for defense beyond what is reasonable, they also pull away from commitment the fastest. Such people are not certain deep down that they could feel love, despite their craving for it. Even the most intoxicating romance will not be able to overcome a history of that places ego needs much higher than those of a relationship." -Deepak Chopra